So I read a couple other blogs of twin moms and it is funny they all say the same thing when it comes to comments on twins- or when I am out with the twins by myself or Steve and I are out with them...people stare at us, I mean just have a constant stare, I smile and move on...here is a classic example, Sunday Steve and I wanted Chipotle for lunch, so we packed up the boys and went. We parked the car, Steve was a head of me holding Luke in his car seat and I had just gotten Will out of the Jeep, there was a mom leaving the parking lot and she looked at me in her mini van and worded "W O W"- I laughed.
I get comments on "how do you take care of two I could barely take care of my one"-
"my kids are 16 months apart that is pretty much like having twins"- um, no not at all-you have one baby and one toddler, a toddler that can walk and talk and all of that which I am sure is super hard, but it is not the same thing- we have two at the same age, two needing the same thing at the same time.
The best is, "so you have two so you are done right?" Well not really sure if we are done- I mean they are only 4 months old...thinking of having another baby is not even in my mind right now...I would love to have a baby girl, but that is not guaranteed and three boys sound like a ton of work- we will not even start to talk about having another baby until the boys are two..I WILL NOT HAVE THREE KIDS IN DIAPERS--- also not even sure if I can get pregnant on my own, so we shall see what is in God's plan
"Are they twins?" Seriously?? Yes
"Were they conceived natural" again, Seriously? I don't even know these people that well, most are clients of mine, but come on...guess they are looking to see if I had IVF or something...
"If you do have another child, one baby will be so much easier than two"- not sure how to answer that...we will still have twins, there will always be two babies/toddlers/kids to look after- so I think it will be hard no matter what...but I do think that if we had just one right now that I would not be so tired and so overwhelmed at moments- I mean Steve and I always have a baby, there is no rest- we are always busy.
There are many more things, but I just find it funny when people tell me these things, just have to laugh!
They just don't understand, Mol. Unless you are a parent of multiples there is no way to understand exactly what you go through with 2 at the same age. Hell, I'm your best friend and I'm not even going to pretend I know how hard it is.
ReplyDeleteYes, I have 2 under the age of 3. I still think that is WAY easier than what twins would have been.
No matter what though just smile and realize that they don't live in the same world as you. You are a mom of multiples! It's a huge challenge but a huge blessing as well.
You have done such an amazing job. Through everything, really. The amazing birth of twins! The 12 days in the nicu. God, it was so difficult to see you go through that. I would not wish that on my worst enemy. But through it all you have been so strong and graceful.
I am so proud to call you my friend =)